Values, Defenses and Passions
Values - universally regarded as essential:
(Try to imagine a world in which none or even one of these are possible for anyone!)
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Survival
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Safety
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Pleasure
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Belonging
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Kinship
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Intimacy
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Connection
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Power
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Courage
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Autonomy
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Self-Reliance
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Purity
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Tradition
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Duty
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Honor
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Patriotism
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Truth
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Success
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Merit
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Competition
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Responsibility
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Community
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Authenticity
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Fairness
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Compassion.
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Kindness.
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Goodness
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Cooperation
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Beauty
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Learning
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Peace
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Love
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Freedom
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Creativity
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Fun
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Play
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Entertainment
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Choice

Defenses - how we protect what we value:
(the effective or destructive habits we've learned)

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Argue
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Fight
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Threaten
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Go Silent
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Freeze
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Walk away
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Shout
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Shame
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Gossip
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Slander
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Sabotage
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Get sick
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Bribe
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Blackmail
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Prove yourself right
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Prove 'them' wrong
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Break things
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Get someone to fight for you
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Ignore the situation
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Pretend all is “OK!”
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Compromise
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Pretend to agree
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Avoid topics
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Avoid the person
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Avoid the situation
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Revenge fantasies
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Obsess and stress
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"Forgive" and move on
Passions - Negative drives that constrict us:
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Selfishness
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Greed
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Lust
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Pride
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Wrath
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Deceit
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Fearfulness
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Gluttony
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Vanity

You've made it this far. Consider how much your life might change if you had the support to become a master of conflict within yourself and in all your relationships. How might your life be different?